《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》章节试读

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第11页 - the inverse power of praise

1 when we praise children for their intelligence, they'd chosen to look smart and avoid the risk of being embarrassed;
2 emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control;
3 praise needs to be specific, and sincerity of praise is also crucial;
4 focused praise helped him see strategies he could apply the next day, including strategies for handing failure.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第72页 - why kids lie

1 any false statement, regardless of intent or belief is a lie;
2 young kids process the risk of lying by considering only their own self-protection;
3 telling kids that the truth will make a parent happy challenges the kid's original thought that hearing good news--not the truth--is what will please the parent;
4 parents often entrap their kids, putting them in positions to lie and testing their honesty unneccessarily.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第131页 - the science of teen rebellion

继昨天篮球场跑步10圈近3000米之后，今天再次9圈向国庆献礼，散花～～～1 they've set a few rules over certain key apheres of influence, and they've explained why the rules are there;
2 the more controlling the parent, the more likely a child is to experience boredom;
3 the type of parents who were lied to the least had rules and enforced them consistently, but they had found a way to be flexible that allowed the rule-setting process to still be respected.如果你真心讲出了你的理由和难处，我听着觉得可信靠谱，那么即使我认为不行，我也可以换种方式满足或者补偿你。 「2013年国庆快乐」

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第95页 - the search for intelligent life in kindergarten

it needs to be recognized that no current test or teacher ratings system, whether used alone or in combination on such young kids(five-year-old's), meets a reasonable standard of confidence to justify a long-term decision.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第177页 - NINE and TEN and Conclusion

1 babies' brains are so sensitive to live human speech;
2 the central role of the parent is to notice what's coming from the baby, and respond accordingly;
3 children need breaks for their brain to consolidate what it's learne.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第29页 - the lost hour

1 a loss of one hour of sleep is equivalent to the loss of two years of cognitive maturation and development;
2 the more you learned during the day, the more you need to sleep that night because the brain shifts what it learned that day to more efficient storage regions of brain during sleep.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第155页 - can self-control be taught

没有看懂这个Tools of the Mind是什么意思，囧1 kids won't be distracted because they're so consumed in the activities they've chosen;
2 kids who can't learn because he's easily distracted. when children are motivated, they learn more;
3 the notion of being able to sustain one's own interest is considered a core building block in Tools.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第47页 - why white parents don't talk about race

1 frequent predictions of future discrimination ironically become as destructive as experiences of actual discrimination;
2 security that comes from belonging to a group.

《NURTURE SHOCK 让人震撼的育儿术》的笔记-第116页 - the sibling effect

1 share physical possessions--or claiming them as their own--caused the most fights;
2 it's getting what you want from friends that forces a child to develop skills.