《完美离婚 A Perfect Divorce》书评

From The New Parent Trap

Wallerstein and her co-authors confront other aspect of the myth. One is the misguided notion that any crisis for the child is temporary,confined to the time of the divorce,and that children are better off and happier when their parents are happier. The book reports that children are relatively content despite how unhappy their parents may be ,as long as the family stay together.Childhood, even with intact families,is never trouble-free.The fact that the most important emotional structure in the child's life----the parents' marriage----ends in failure becomes forever embeded in that child's history. Having said that,here's what I know too:You can get past being a child of divorce,you can get around it, you can overcome it.People do it all the time.And what they are doing----and some divorce parents may not be comfortable with this----is overcoming their trauma.